Is Listening Enough?

Just because you listen, do you really understand?

I listened and heard clearly:
“She is a bully.” My understanding is she intentionally hurts people.

I was wrong. I spiraled and asked, “What is she doing to earn that reputation?” I learned, she is asking people to deliver on commitments.

I listened and heard clearly:
“He is crazy.” My understanding is his behavior is dangerous to himself or others.

I was wrong again. I spiraled and asked, “How do you experience him as crazy?” I learned, he is insecure in the relationship and tends to leave when he feels threatened.

I listened and heard clearly:
“People are afraid to tell him what is going on.” I understood he must be reactive and scare them.

I spiraled and asked, “What makes them afraid?” I learned people didn’t want to overwhelm an already busy person.

When merely listening my conclusions were based on my own assumptions.
Each time I was wrong!
To understand Spiral in and ask a question.

What do you miss when you don’t ask the next question?  How do you recognize when you are filling in  with your own assumptions?
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Constructive Criticism Revealed

I wove in and out through major road construction as if in a war zone to a client meeting; it is ironic that construction is often is experienced as destruction!

As I began our coaching session my client said how giving ‘constructive criticism’ was difficult for her. There is that word again:

Constructive criticism is often received as destructive. construction

I believe this is why most people feel uncomfortable giving feedback – it feels destructive.

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When caught in road construction, one way I cope is to imagine how nice this is going to be when it is finished. I focus on the improvement, the outcome.


Tip: When you give feedback, shift your thinking from ‘constructive criticism’ to deliberate feedback for improving performance.

Feedback is something constantly happening whether you are aware of it or not. Become deliberate in your feedback and you will never feel destructive again. There are 3 forms of feedback:
• Positive recognition
• Performance improvement
• Ending the relationship

If you are consistently deliberate with the first 2 the 3rd either never happens or it is not a surprise when it does.

When giving deliberate feedback be consistent with Spiral Impact concepts, include asking questions, being centered, and focused on desire outcomes or organizational feedback.

When you give feedback in this way, you can lead people to their own conclusions and hold them accountable to agreed upon behavior.

Skip the destruction and be deliberate with comfort!

New Product available:  Giving Deliberate Feedback for Leaders – a 16 page how to booklet for giving feedback.  Available in hardcopy or at your favorite e-book site.

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Management Strength Redefined in the New Norm of Chaos and Rapid Change

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Karen Valencic
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Hospitals Can Do More with Less Energy, Says Health Care Management Expert Karen Valencic

Management Strength Redefined in the New Norm of Chaos and Rapid Change

INDIANAPOLIS, November 1, 2011 – Hospital leaders can motivate employees and get more work accomplished with better, long-lasting results if they look at their problems in a different light, says health care performance improvement expert Karen Valencic.

“If today’s business climate is a turbulent and unpredictable hurricane, then the key to sustained success is operating in the ‘calm eye,’ not the outer bands of turbulence. When a hurricane loses its calm eye, it loses its power. The same is true for business leaders; losing the calm eye or center, they lose power,” says Valencic, author of “Spiral Impact: The Power to Get It Done with Grace”(www.spiralimpact.com)

She urges health care workers to shatter the typical model of driving harder to get more done. She applies her martial arts and engineering degree to coach business leaders and teams how to “‘spiral” to make “impact” and do it with grace and ease.

“Think of the difference between a hammer and a screwdriver. Many people who work in health care organizations feel hammered with too much to do. They are doing the work of two people. This extra work accelerates burnout and destroys innovation. They are really stressed,” says Valencic who keynotes healthcare conferences and leads training sessions and workshops on conflict resolution and employee engagement.

Valencic’s Spiral Impact® model touts using the spiral for improved performance, as with a screwdriver, easier to drive, stable and with a sustained outcome.

“Power comes in the form of a spiral not a straight line,” says Valencic, a shodan black-belt martial artist.

“I help people engage in a way that is productive. I created the idea of spiraling because anything else takes too much energy,” said Valencic, who speaks and consults with health care companies, hospitals and associations that are going through challenges. She shows them how to innovate through conflict and change.

“In a stormy business environment, business leaders have the challenge of planning in uncertainty with the added caveat of keeping their employees fresh and innovative. Spiral Impact provides the guidance and keeps you in the calm eye of the storm,” says Valencic who also consults on changing workplace cultures in healthcare. “ People have to get along. Leaders need to learn how to hold their people accountable.”

She shares her proprietary 4-point Spiral Impact process for getting things done with grace and ease.

“To begin, recognize when you are pushing or pulling. That pounding heart, tension in your neck or gut, or holding your breath are clues you are hammering away,” said Valencic who coaches health care leaders to literally spiral when they feel tension.

She offers these four ways to spiral, which can be used individually or in combination depending on the needs of the leader.

1. Become the “calm eye of the storm.” This is a concept Valencic refers to as centering. Valencic shares a variety of ways to accomplish this with clients. Breathing is at the core of all of them. She explores this in depth with her audio guide designed for while you are driving. http://www.karenvalencic.com/products/

2. Notice what statements you make about the situation. Change those statements into questions, acknowledgements or both. “This is impossible,” becomes “If we knew how, what would it be?” “They will never change,” becomes “How have I explained the expectations and verified understanding?” This economy is destroying us,” becomes “What opportunity or need can we fill?” Questions create answers; statements keep you stuck.

3. Declare three levels of intention. What is it that you want that you don’t have? Valencic asks her clients to clarify three levels of intention: the bigger picture, the deeper values or purpose, and the immediate. Making sure all three line up everyday is key to making sure you are not going in circles. Intention is what differentiates a spiral producing results from endlessly going in circles.

4. Choose your support. Feel like the Lone Ranger? Identify trusted advisors who can help guide you through the storm and keep you in the eye.

“Hurricanes are powerful. Use that Spiral power for good and go make a positive productive Impact!” she says.

About Karen Valencic and Spiral Impact

Karen Valencic, founder and president of Spiral Impact has been known for her content rich engaging presentations on conflict reconciliation for over 20 years. For more information and video lessons go to: www.spiralimpact.com. Her book, Spiral Impact: The Power to Get It Done with Grace, has recently been published on all e-book formats and is available in paperback on her website.
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Does stuff equal conflict?

Does ‘stuff’ cause you conflict?

It does me.  As I begin the week, having a clear workspace allows me to focus on what is important.   Are the important things assessable?   Is your planner or ‘to do’ list handy and clear?

What is worthy of your attention?  Anything that distracts you from what is really important needs to be relocated.  File it, if you don’t need it today, either in the trash, electronically, or in a drawer.

This is a wonderful entertaining Ted Video from Graham Hill :  Less stuff, more happiness.  Well worth the short time…

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Just one more question

Just one more question would have saved me an hour.

Those of you who know me well, know I am very committed to working out.  I schedule a work out almost everyday.   I find it invaluable in numerous ways:  thinking time, refreshed energy, and physical wellness.

Today I scheduled a swim in at 1 PM, my reward after a morning of writing, before I go teach an evening course.  When I arrived at the gym, a bright pink sign greeted me at the door.  THE POOL IS CLOSED TODAY.  Darn, there goes my schedule.  This is the second time this month this has happened.

In accordance with the Spiral Impact principles I decide to get centered and learn how to prevent this from happening again, I asked the manager:

Is there a pool maintenance schedule?  No, there isn’t.
Is it posted somewhere I can check before I drive here?  No, it isn’t.
What is the best thing I should do so I don’t drive here when the pool is closed?  Call this number (how convenient!).

On my way back to the office,  it occurred to me one very important question:

When will the pool reopen?

I called.  It reopened right after I left.

One more question would have saved me an hour.

When you are problem solving, stop and think through the entire scenario. I know next time I will!

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